Seven Online Dating Mistakes in Profiles
I have tried online dating on three separate occasions. The first time I was terrified and the second time I was frustrated. The third time was better because I finally read-up on the topic, asked my friends what they were writing online, and experimented with my profile until I got the attention I wanted.
Do yourself a favor and don't make the same mistakes I made.
Mistake Number One: The Competition Ignored Three-fourths of the women in my zip code have a picture of themselves at a baseball game. If I hadn't gone weeks without looking at other women's profiles, it would've occurred to me sooner that I should one-up my competition and post a picture of myself playing the game. It's important to compare yourself to the competition.
Mistake Number Two: Your Photo Never Changed I picked a new photo and changed my profile a bit every couple of weeks after I found a guy whose profile stayed exactly the same for months. Even though I liked the guy, I didn't write him because I thought if his profile was the same for so long, then he wasn't interested in impressing anyone. I realized that I should spice up my profile from time to time so I didn't get passed by more than once.
Mistake Number Three: Upload the Wrong Photo It's safe to assume that we've all been in relationships before, or have a friend of the opposite sex that likes to hug or hang on us. Avoid photos with other people or photos where it's obvious someone has been cut out.
Pictures of you with babies and puppies are cheap. Nice try.
The photos of you in your bathing suit should, of course, be avoided. You're hot and want to tell someone, which is great, but keep it classy.
Mistake Number Four: Write a Novel The written portions of your profile should never be too long. Our attention spans just won't withstand the 580 words describing your ideal date. Save the novel for the second, third and fourth e-mails because that will certainly let him or her know you're interested.
Mistake Number Five: Putting on a Broken Record An important aspect of your online profile is to make yourself sound unique-even if it is difficult to do. Phrases like "My friends say that I'm" or "I'm laid back" are clich. Instead, focus on your distinctive attributes like the fact that your eyes change from hazel to green depending on what you wear.
Mistake Number Six: Wire Your Heart on Your Sleeve Keep your heartbreak to yourself-no one cares that you are getting over someone or that you've been hurt before. Your suitors will be scared away if you say things like: "After a horrible break-up, I'm looking to have fun" or "After so many Mr. Wrongs, I'm looking for Mr. Right." No one wants to get involved with someone new who obviously has baggage.
Mistake Number Seven: Forget to Get a Second Opinion Let's be honest, it's hard to write about yourself. The best thing you can do is ask a good friend to help you write your profile, or at least review it for you. If that's not an option, there are many profile writing services around to help you out for a small fee.
Online dating shouldn't be hard and isn't scary. Like all types of dating, with the right expectations and attitude-the outcome will only be positive.
About the Author: Sara Musfeldt operates a blog filled with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. Sara has also produced an online dating advice to help single people everywhere find a date.
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